What is Love? Is it just a word that is uttered for you to gain what you want?
When you think
to manipulate someone with words of Love, then I think that you are displaying
a decidedly unchristian like behaviour.
It may not even
be ‘Christian’ or ‘Buddhism’ or any type of religion for that matter. When you
think to achieve something using by manipulating the emotion of ‘Love’, it is
like a thief or a robber which comes to burglarise another’s safe haven.
Love must be
sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. – Romans 12:9
When we receive
declarations of love from others, we can feel the sincerity behind what is
said.
While it may
sound good, but when there is a skewed reason other than that which is true,
then the feelings that it is supposed to bring up will go missing.
When we receive
declarations of Love and we feel that there is something off about it, we must
be clear minded enough to find out the motivations behind it.
What is the
person in love with?
Is the person
in love with the idea of having children, whether adopted or his own?
Is the person
in love with the feeling of love?
Is the person
in love with being popular?
Is the person
in love with….
There are so many possibilities, it is difficult to pin-point what it is.
However, when
put to the test. The one to abandon ship first is the one who is least
interested in understanding the real fundamentals behind what Love is.
Love is
patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It
does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it
keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the
truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love
never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are
tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. – 1
Corinthians 13:4-8
Love is not
something that you can measure and explain. When there is an objective measure
then you will find that it disappoints. The reason why we love something is
subject to our feelings, so to determine the boundaries of love is impossible.
When we claim to love another not due to the pure feeling of wanting to be together, then it is a hypocrisy.
So what does
the bible say about hypocrisy?
We cannot think
to force ourselves on each other. A natural way of cultivating love is the way,
do not think of temptations, and also not to tempt the other. By way of
flaunting our assets, we try to use our minds more than our hearts and ignore
that we should take both together in equal weightage.
N.B. This post first appeared in "Life Of Faith: Exploration".
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